Repeat-After-Me Wedding Vows vs "I Do": Traditional & Modern Examples

Deciding if you want to do repeat-after-me wedding vows, I do vows, and/or personal vows? Check out these examples of each, then learn how to seamlessly incorporate them into your ceremony.
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Wedding vows are the heart of a marriage ceremony. They are the promises that couples make to each other, expressing their love, commitment, and vision for their shared future.

This article explores "repeat after me" wedding vows, "I do" vows, and how to craft vows that resonate with you. Whether you're planning your wedding or simply interested in the evolution of wedding traditions, this guide offers valuable insights.

What are Repeat-After-Me Wedding Vows?

Repeat-after-me wedding vows involve the officiant reciting the vows line by line, with the couple repeating each line in turn. This format is popular with couples who want to actually recite back the same promises to one another. Repeat-after-me vows can be traditional or modern, depending on the wording chosen.

What are "I Do" Vows?

While repeat-after-me vows involve the couple echoing the officiant's words, "I do" vows involve the officiant asking a series of questions (often phrased as "Do you..."), and the couple responds with "I do" or "I will."

Repeat-After-Me Vows vs. "I Do" Vows

One thing that most people don't realize is you can still personalize both the "Repeat-after-me" and the "I Do" vows. Given the nerves of the big day, "I Do" vows are can be a better option over "Repeat-After-Me" vows so that the couple doesn't have to get anxious that they will repeat something back incorrectly. If you're nervous about public speaking, we recommend the "I Do" Vows.

Here are some examples to highlight the differences:

Repeat-After-Me Vows:

Officiant: "I, [Partner 1's Name], take you, [Partner 2's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."
Partner 1: "I, [Partner 1's Name], take you, [Partner 2's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."

Officiant: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"
Partner 1: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"

Officiant: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"
Partner 1: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"

Officiant: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."
Partner 1: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."

"I Do" Vows:

Officiant: "Do you, [Partner 1's Name], take [Partner 2's Name] to be your lawfully wedded [husband/wife]?"
Partner 1: "I do."

Officiant: "Do you promise to love, honor, and cherish them, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?"
Partner 1: "I do."

Officiant: "Do you, [Partner 2's Name], take [Partner 1's Name] to be your lawfully wedded [husband/wife]?"
Partner 2: "I do."

Officiant: "Do you promise to love, honor, and cherish them, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live?"
Partner 2: "I do."

When to Do "Repeat After Me" or "I Do" Vows Alongside Personalized Written Vows

Many couples choose to combine the heartfelt expression of personalized written vows with the structure and tradition of "repeat after me" or "I Do" vows in their wedding ceremony. This approach allows them to enjoy the best of both worlds: the uniqueness and intimacy of their own words and the solemnity and ease of traditional vows.

Combining Both Vows in Your Ceremony

  1. Personalized Vows for Deeper Connection: Start with personalized written vows. This is the perfect moment to share your unique love story, memories, and specific promises that reflect your individual relationship.
  2. Traditional Foundation with Personal Touch: After the personalized vows, transition to the "repeat after me" or "I Do" vows led by the officiant. This ensures that the essential promises are clearly stated and understood by both partners and the audience.

How to Seamlessly Integrate Both Vows

  • Sequence of Vows: Begin with the personalized vows read by each partner. Once these are completed, transition smoothly into the "repeat after me" or "I Do" vows. You can have the officiant introduce this part by saying something like, "Now, we will make their love official with the Declaration of Intent"
  • Length and Balance: Ensure that the personalized vows are balanced in length and sentiment to maintain harmony and flow in the ceremony. Practicing beforehand can help with timing and delivery.

Example Vows Ceremony Flow

  1. Officiant Introduction: The officiant welcomes guests and introduces the vow exchange.
  2. Personalized Vows: Each partner reads their personalized vows to one another.
  3. Transition: The officiant introduces the "repeat after me" vows, highlighting their significance.
  4. Repeat-After-Me Vows: The officiant guides the couple through the traditional vows, with each partner repeating after the officiant.
  5. Conclusion: The officiant concludes the vow exchange and proceeds with the next part of the ceremony.

Incorporating both personalized written vows and "repeat after me" or "I Do" vows allows couples to honor tradition while also making their ceremony uniquely meaningful and memorable. This combination ensures that the vows reflect both the individual and shared aspects of their relationship.

Traditional Repeat-After-Me Vows

Traditional repeat-after-me vows often have a classic, timeless feel and are commonly used in religious or formal wedding ceremonies. Here are some examples:

Example 1:

Officiant: "I, [Partner 1's Name], take you, [Partner 2's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."
Partner 1: "I, [Partner 1's Name], take you, [Partner 2's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."

Officiant: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"
Partner 1: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"

Officiant: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"
Partner 1: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"

Officiant: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."
Partner 1: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."

Example 2:

Officiant: "I, [Partner 2's Name], take you, [Partner 1's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."
Partner 2: "I, [Partner 2's Name], take you, [Partner 1's Name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife]."

Officiant: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"
Partner 2: "To have and to hold from this day forward,"

Officiant: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"
Partner 2: "For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,"

Officiant: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."
Partner 2: "In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part."

Modern Repeat-After-Me Vows

Modern repeat-after-me vows allow couples to personalize their promises, incorporating elements of their unique relationship and shared future. Here are some examples:

Example 1:

Officiant: "I, [Partner 1's Name], promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals,"
Partner 1: "I, [Partner 1's Name], promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals,"

Officiant: "To honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you,"
Partner 1: "To honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you,"

Officiant: "And to cherish you for as long as we both shall live."
Partner 1: "And to cherish you for as long as we both shall live."

Example 2:

Officiant: "I, [Partner 2's Name], take you to be my partner for life, promising above all else to live in truth with you,"
Partner 2: "I, [Partner 2's Name], take you to be my partner for life, promising above all else to live in truth with you,"

Officiant: "To communicate fully and fearlessly, to give and receive love without limit,"
Partner 2: "To communicate fully and fearlessly, to give and receive love without limit,"

Officiant: "And to cherish you for all of our days."
Partner 2: "And to cherish you for all of our days."

For more examples of traditional and modern vows, check out the Vow Builder.

Crafting Your Modern Wedding Vows

Crafting your own modern wedding vows can be a rewarding experience. It allows you to express your love and commitment in a way that truly reflects your relationship. Start by reflecting on your journey as a couple. Think about the experiences you've shared, the challenges you've overcome, and the dreams you have for the future.

Don't be afraid to get personal. The more specific and detailed your vows are, the more meaningful they will be. Remember, your vows are a promise to your partner. They should reflect not only your love for them but also your commitment to supporting them in the years to come.

Tips for Personalizing Your Vows

Personalizing your vows can make them more meaningful and memorable. Start by thinking about what makes your relationship unique. Consider your shared interests, inside jokes, and special memories. These can all be incorporated into your vows to make them truly your own.

Don't forget to include promises and commitments. These are the heart of your vows and should reflect your intentions for your marriage.

If you have a bunch of swirling ideas but you are struggling to express them in words, the Provenance Vow Builder can help.

Incorporating Humor and Individuality

Humor can add a touch of lightness to your vows. It can make your vows more enjoyable and relatable, reflecting the joy and laughter in your relationship. Individuality is also important. Your vows should reflect your unique personality and style. They should be a true representation of you as a couple.

Remember, there are no rules when it comes to modern vows. Feel free to be creative and express yourself in your own way.

Examples of Modern "Repeat After Me" Vows

Looking for inspiration? Here are some examples of modern "repeat after me" vows:

"I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live."

"I take you to be my partner for life, promising above all else to live in truth with you, to communicate fully and fearlessly, to give and receive love without limit, and to cherish you for all of our days."

"I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness, to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed, and to share the silence when they are not."

"I promise to be your lover, companion, and friend, your partner in parenthood, your ally in conflict, your greatest fan, and your toughest adversary, your comrade in adventure, your student and your teacher, your consolation in disappointment, your accomplice in mischief."

"I promise to love you faithfully, to support you in your goals and dreams, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live."

The Role of the Officiant and Witnesses

The officiant plays a crucial role in the vow exchange. They guide the process, ensuring that it flows smoothly and is understood by all. Witnesses, too, have a significant part. They bear testament to the vows, adding a layer of accountability and support. Together, the officiant and witnesses help to create a meaningful and memorable vow exchange.

Guiding the Vow Exchange Process

The officiant guides the couple through the vow exchange. They prompt the "repeat after me" vows, ensuring that the couple can focus on the moment. Their experience and expertise can be invaluable in creating a seamless and stress-free ceremony.

The Importance of Practice and Delivery

Practice is key to a smooth vow exchange. It helps to familiarize the couple with the words and the rhythm of the vows. Delivery, too, is important. Clear and confident delivery can enhance the impact of the vows, making them more memorable and meaningful.

Embracing Group Vows in Your Ceremony

Group vows are a modern trend that adds a communal element to the ceremony. They involve the guests in the vow exchange, creating a shared experience. This can enhance the sense of unity and support at the wedding. It's a beautiful way to involve loved ones in your commitment.

Group vows can be particularly meaningful at small, intimate weddings. They can help to create a warm, inclusive atmosphere.

Creating a Communal Experience

Group vows can create a powerful communal experience. They allow the guests to participate actively in the ceremony, rather than just observing. This can create a deeper sense of connection and involvement, making the ceremony more memorable for everyone.

Group Vow Examples for Inspiration

Looking for inspiration for your group vows? Here are a few examples:

"We, the friends and family of [couple's names], promise to support and love you in your journey together."

"As witnesses to your love, we vow to stand by you in times of joy and hardship."

"We, your loved ones, pledge to honor and respect your union, today and always."

Remember, the best group vows are those that reflect your unique community and relationships.

Conclusion: Making Your Vows Memorable

In conclusion, wedding vows offer a unique way to express your love and commitment. They allow for personalization, creativity, and inclusivity. Whether you opt for traditional, modern, or group vows, the key is to make them heartfelt and memorable. Your vows should reflect your journey as a couple and your hopes for the future.

Deciding if you want to do repeat-after-me wedding vows, I do vows, and/or personal vows? Check out these examples of each, then learn how to seamlessly incorporate them into your ceremony.
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